My Relationship with Alcohol

When I was younger, I used to be somewhat afraid of this mysterious beverage. Alcohol was a “no-no” for me. I couldn’t even think about that word without feeling anxious and a little bit disgusted (even if I have never tasted a drop of it by that time). 

My uncle is allergic to alcohol. As soon as he drinks a glass of… well, anything that has alcohol in it, his face becomes extremely red and he cannot breathe. 

My cousin used to think his father’s allergy might be hereditary and so he did not drink such beverages throughout his teenage years. 

At first, I was in complete agreement with him. What if the same thing could happen to us? So I kept away from alcohol like it was poison. 

After a while, though, my cousin dicovered that he doesn’t share that gene with his father and so, most probably, neither do I. 

Even if I knew that I was able to drink without turning into a tomato and suffocating, I was still reticent to follow my cousin’s steps. 

My family has a pretty ugly history when it comes to alcohol. Both my grandpa and grandma died because of it. 

Also, I didn’t fully trust myself. I thought that I am too weak to handle it and that alcohol would be in control of me.

But let me tell you… oh, boy how wrong I was. The first time that I had a drink was last December! I was at a New Year’s Eve party with all of my friends and right before the fireworks, they handed me a glass of champagne. I’ll have to admit that I let myself be influenced by them that night. If they hadn’t encouraged me to drink that beverage, I wouldn’t have done it. 

But I did. And I liked it. 

And so step by step, I learnt how to drink and what to drink. 

Now, don’t get me wrong. I don’t support the idea of getting wasted and alcoholism. I am very much aware of how many problems “the juice of gods” can create.

I believe that everything should be in moderation and that includes drinking. Alcohol is supposed to be just for bits of pleasure and making the atmosphere lighter. However, too much of it is, indeed, poisonous. It can destroy your life and… yourself. 

The most important thing to remember is to know when to stop. Unfortunately, not many people know how to stop. 

Whenever I start feeling a little bit tipsy, I drink water. Lots of it. Until I feel better. That’s a thing that helps. Or another approach to this is drinking a glass of water after every glass (or two) of alochol. The point is that you shouldn’t drink only alochol the whole night.

What I learnt in these 7 months of drinking (this sounds like I’m addicted, but I swear all’s cool haha) is that you shouldn’t be afraid of alcohol. As long as you’re careful and you are aware of your intake, everything is going to be alright. 

But still, there is a thin line between having fun and becoming addicted and you should always be extremely careful not to cross it. 

I am GRATEFUL for… #3

Nature.

I am grateful for nature because whenever I get the blues, all I have to do is spend some time surrounded by trees, flowers and a rivulet and everything gets better.

I love drinking cold spring water on hot summer days. It cools me down, both physically and emotionally.

I am extremely grateful that I can watch the sky while playing with my dog, Pufi.

Picking up flowers is always a must.

Nature is gorgeous in all its forms and shapes.

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What are you grateful for?

8 Ways In Which You Can Overcome Sadness

We all feel blue from time to time. Some of us cope with sadness better than others. For those who encounter problems when dealing with this feeling, I’ve decided to come up with a list of 8 methods that could help you become joyful again.

  1. Make  yourself a cup of tea. 

Try to go through the whole process of making tea. Don’t just buy it from a supermarket or order it from Starbucks. You’ll see that tea tastes better when you make it yourself. The process itself is very relaxing and it could help you reflect on your problems for a while.

       2. Go for a run. 

Everybody knows that exercising helps you get rid of any negative emotion. Also, you’ll keep fit.

        3. Talk to yourself.

There is no shame in talking to yourself. After all, you are the one who knows best what’s bugging you. You hold the answers, therefore you need to ask some questions first.

         4. Talk to your plants.

This is an alternative for those who feel odd talking to themselves. Plants are friends. Plants love you. They want you to talk to them. They are also great listeners.

         5. Watch fail compilations.

Funniest videos ever. You want to feel good? Then you have to laugh. And what better thing to make you laugh than people who hurt themselves.

          6. Meditate.

Meditation is great. It relaxes your mind and your spirit.  In order to be happy again, you need to stop feeling bad (obviously). Meditation helps you understand your feelings, thus making it easier for you to get rid of negativity.

           7. Look up random words in the dictionary.

Not only does it take your attention away from your negative feelings, but it also helps you widen your range of vocabulary. Awesome.

           8. Write your thoughts on paper (and set fire to it).

Letting go of your feeling is the hardest part. Writing everything down separates the sadness from you. If you want to end that particular chapter in your life, then you must burn some bridges (aka set fire to the paper). Don’t do it at home, though. Safety above everything.

Life is too short to be sad. Destroy that feeling. Be free. Be happy.

6 easy steps to achieve your goals!

Goals. We all have some, we all want to achieve them. Now that it’s the beginning of a new year, we see lists of goals everywhere… and I mean EVERYWHERE. But I don’t blame anyone. A new year feels like the perfect time to set some goals.

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Thinking that you’ll definitely achieve them this year, you sit down at your desk, pen in hand or in between your teeth and start to write a long list of goals. However, at the end of the year you realize that you haven’t achieved anything on that list! You get sad… and you give up on your dreams. If only you could have achieved those goals! But, hey! Cheer up! It might be your lucky day, because I have some tips on how to achieve every single one of your goals! It’s simple actually. All you have to do is follow these next few steps.

  1. Make a list. Most people stop right at this step. They make a list and that’s it. But why you should make a list, though? How is that going to help you achieve those goals? Well, by writing them down you make the conscious decision of accomplishing something in a certain period of time. Now that your brain knows what your intentions are, it’ll help you in your journey. I recommend you buy a special notebook for your goals. The list should be written at the beginning of the notebook.
  2. Keep track of your progress. Every month, reread that list and jot down the progress made regarding every goal. In this way, you have a clear view of whether you’re going in the right direction or not. It will also motivate you to work harder.
  3. Think of the benefits brought by accomplishing those goals. The outcome is what we really want, so imagining how our life would be when and after we achieve our goals makes it easier for us to do that. Our brain will be flooded by the sensation of winning and power and it’ll get drunk on that, making us long for them and thus making us even more motivated.
  4. Stay focused. Keep distractions away! Distractions stop you from achieving your goals. They make you procrastinate and procrastination makes you lose desire of being successful. Notice what gets your attention away from your goals and try to find a solution for it. If your phone is the distraction, then download an app which can help you stay focused. There are plenty.
  5. Little is more. It’s better to work 20 minutes daily, than 5 hours once a week. Consistence is what helps you improve. And I can give you a personal example here. I am currently learning German. At first, I used to practice 2 hours of it during the weekend. Do you think I learned anything by using this method? No, I didn’t.  Now I’m using the Duolingo app which consists of 15 minutes every day of practice. It has become so fun that I sometimes exceed those 15 minutes without noticing! Also, my German skills have improved drastically!
  6. Lastly, but not least… Stay chill. And by that I mean that you should relax once in a while. If you are continuously stressed about achieving your goals, well… you won’t. Stress is a very dangerous enemy when it comes to achieving your goals. Take a break when the pressure is too much to handle and then return with fresh forces. Keep your mind clear, because only a clear mind is able to guide and help you in this journey. Eat well, exercise, meditate, take a bath or a walk, spend time in nature.

Also, if you don’t manage to achieve your goals by the end of the year, it’s alright. What truly matters is to make progress towards achieving that particular goal.

I hope these little tips helped you and I look forward to hearing that you all are happy because you have achieved your goals with the help of at least one of these tips.

Stay positive.

Every little soul matters

I want you all to meet Bartholomew

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He is a pigeon. Isn’t he lovely?

I found this little guy somewhere at the back of our school’s basketball court.

There were some 8th graders who only looked at him and laughed at the way he was struggling to fly.

He had one of his wings broken and his neck was seriously damaged.

Me and a friend of mine gained some courage and tried to rescue him. It was pretty hard till we caught him, but eventually my friend managed to lure him into our arms.

We took him to a vet during the Religion class. Our teacher was more than eager to let us go and save Barth’s life. The vet took great care of him and now Barth is flying free to wherever his little soul wishes.

To be honest, I felt extremely empowered by this. Knowing that I saved a life, no matter how insignificant it is to others, makes me feel great. Unfortunately, the rest of our classmates only made fun of us for trying to help Barth. They kept on saying that there is no hope for him, but we didn’t listen to them and now look how it turned out to be. Barth is healthy and, hopefully, happy.

Every single life matters whether it is an animal’s one or the life of a human being.

If you have the opportunity to help, then do it! 

17 things I’ve learned by age 17

Yesterday, I turned 17. It feels so weird when I type this number… It is going to take me a long time till I get used to it.

This year, I wasn’t excited at all about my birthday; I didn’t even organize a birthday party cause I wasn’t in the mood for one. However, on the day before my birthday, I felt like all of the emotions that I was trying to ignore decided to make an appearance. I kinda had a breakdown, I started crying. I was just not believing that I was about to turn 17. Next year I’ll be 18 which means that I will officially be an adult and after two years, I finish high school. So, I started to feel anxious cause I still don’t know what I want to do with my life or what universities I should apply for… But I was also grateful for the fact that my life finally starts to be the way that I want.

After I calmed down I came to the conclusion that I should reflect on my past years and see what I’ve learned. I know it’s pretty cliché and cheesy and almost everyone does this kind of thing, but I really enjoy reading lists like these. And what a better way to celebrate my birthday on my blog than drawing a list like this up.

Therefore, here are 17 things I’ve learned by age 17.

  1. Change occurs. You cannot stop it. Embrace it, instead.
  2. A phone call draws the line between true friends and acquaintances.
  3. Nature heals every single wound, whether it’s physical or spiritual.
  4. Don’t desire. After you get what you lust for, you lose interest in it. Focus on the things that you need, appreciate and love.
  5. Being open to new things is the key to memorable adventures and experiences.
  6. Loneliness is cool. You’re not lame if you spend most of the time alone or if you do certain things alone.
  7. 2/10 middle school friends turn into high school friends (and maybe into lifetime friends)
  8. Sometimes, people want you to make the first move. They want to see if you really care about them.
  9. Don’t rush things. Everything comes at the right time.
  10. Cheeseburgers are not the only thing you can eat at McDonald’s.
  11. Thrift store clothes are bomb. You shouldn’t be ashamed to buy them. Most of them are good quality, unique and very fucking cheap.
  12. Having a boyfriend is not necessary. Do your thing. Alone.
  13. Body hair is something normal. Be cool with it.
  14. Girls can fucking swear if that’s what they want.
  15. Weird? Nah, mate. Authentic.
  16. You don’t have to be a doctor in order to have a succesful career.
  17. Loving yourself is the first step towards true happiness.

Well, all I can say is that I can’t wait to see what other things I’ll add to the list before I turn 18.

Have a lovely day, dear readers. Lots of love xx 🙂

I am grateful for… #2

Being able to visit my grandma whenever I want.

She lives at about half an hour away from me in a small village which is situated pretty much in the heart of Nature. There is a forest, a tiny river (I think you call that a torrent, but I’m not sure) loads of fields with flowers and corn and orchards, hills and many other wonderful elements of Nature.

I didn’t tell her that I was going to visit her and she was so happy and surprised. It made me feel extremely good. Small gestures like these make our life worth living.

Behind our house, there is a small orchard where I like to spend my time during summers. A huge pear tree rises to the sky and covers the sun, so that I can relax in the shadows.

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I love lying in the grass and looking up to the sky to try to spot the sun between the branches.

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My dog, Pufi, keeps me company. He is such a lovely little creature. He makes so happy.

After a few hours I went to a place near my house where you can find a bunch of rocks and I picked some up… 162 to be exactly. And of course I had to sort them by colour haha.

Then I went home and ate a delicious watermelon with my grandma. We talked and laughed and I helped her with the garden.

I am truly grateful for wonderful days like this one. I was happy and my grandma noticed that. She even told my mom that she has never seen me so full of life and with such a big smile on my face. I am grateful for those words, too.

I just can’t wait to see what other lovely days has good ol’ summer prepared for me.

Love and Peace, dear readers!